Welcoming a new member into your home is an exciting time for your family, and the conversations that you have with your child about adoption should center on having loving, supportive parents who are there for them in every way they need.
If you’re a parent to an adopted kid, experts recommend that conversations about adoption start as soon as the child arrives in the home. Parents should have honest discussions and be open to answer questions as they come up.
For those who aren’t adopted but know adopted children through school or friendship circles, the discussion starts off similarly: This child was born to different parents, but those parents could not care for them in the way they needed, so the child was placed with parents who could.
Adoptive parents are responsible for deciding how many age-appropriate details of the adoption story to share with their child.
For example, young children may not understand the concept of having new parents but can grasp that they are in a safe and welcoming environment. Older children may be more curious about their birth parents. However, it’s important that parents don’t wait for the child to express curiosity about their adoption story; parents who bring it up show that they’re not ashamed of the decision and are willing to talk about it at any time.
For its 100th anniversary, Scholastic spoke with experts to identify a set of tips, articles, and books that make starting a conversation with your child about adoption easier. These resources are part of a broader initiative, called the Scholastic Bookshelf, created for Instagram to raise awareness around contemporary issues affecting children today.
Conversations about adoption will change over time in tandem with the child’s physical and emotional growth. The following resources are recommended for children age 9 and above (about 3rd grade and up), but you can certainly read them together if you feel that it can help make your conversations about adoption more natural for your child.